Kathleen Donelli

Counsel

Kathleen Donelli is one of Westchester’s best known Matrimonial and Family Law lawyers. She is counsel to the firm and a member of our Matrimonial & Family Law, Collaborative Law, Mediation & Arbitration Practice Group and Appellate Practice groups. Kathleen won a landmark New York State Court of Appeals custody decision in Tropea v. Tropea, 87 N.Y.2d 727, 665 N.E.2d 145, 642 N.Y.S.2d 575 (1996). Tropea established that courts should determine if a custodial parent should be permitted to relocate with a child based on the “best interest” of the child. Kathleen frequently lectures on ethics and a variety of matrimonial and family law issues. Kathleen is a member of the Board of the New York Association of Collaborative Professionals, an association dedicated to resolving matrimonial and custody disputes without court intervention.

Kathleen is an adjunct Professor of Law at Elizabeth Haub School of Law at Pace University and a member of its Board of Visitors.

Kathleen is a Past President of the Westchester Women’s Bar Association and the White Plains Bar Association. She is the Co-Chair of the Collaborative Law Committees of the Westchester Women’s Bar Association and the Women’s Bar Association of the State of New York. She is a former Member of the Grievance Committee for the Ninth Judicial District. Kathleen has also been recognized as a New York Super Lawyer in the area of Family Law.

Areas Of Experience

  • Advice on and preparation of Prenuptial and Postnuptial Agreements
  • Preparation of all documents incident to an action for divorce, including maintenance, child support, child custody (including child relocation disputes) and related matters
  • Advice and negotiations regarding prospective settlements of contested matters
  • Separation Agreements, Stipulations of Settlement and Uncontested Divorces for clients at all income and asset levels
  • Litigating all aspects of Divorce Actions and Family Court Proceedings, including Orders of Protection, Paternity Disputes, Temporary Support Awards, Restraining Orders, Domestic Violence issues, Orders of Protection, Exclusive Occupancy of the Marital Residence, Maintenance, Child Support, Equitable Distribution of Marital Property and Establishing Separate Property Claims
  • Dispute Resolution Processes, including mediation and arbitration and collaborative law and fee dispute arbitration
  • Trials and Appeals of Supreme and Family Court matters, including child relocation disputes involving Tropea, the case which established the prevailing law in New York on child relocation
01/15/2026

Donelli Rejoins the Firm as Counsel in our Matrimonial and Family Law Group

We are pleased to announce that Kathleen Donelli, who was a partner of the firm for many years, has rejoined the firm as counsel. Kathleen is one of Westchester’s best known and most respected lawyers in Matrimonial and Family Law, and is a member of our Matrimonial & Family Law, Collaborative Law, Mediation & Arbitration Practice and Appellate Practice groups. Kathleen continues to be an active member of the legal community, which includes her work as an adjunct professor of Law at Elizabeth Haub School of Law of Pace University and her participation in various committees of the Westchester Women’s Bar Association and the Women’s Bar Association of the State of New York.

10/01/2019

McCarthy Fingar’s “Super Lawyers”

Six of our lawyers have been selected Super Lawyers in the New York Metropolitan area. Gail M. Boggio has again been selected in the fields of Estate & Trust Litigation/Estate Planning & Probate/Elder Law. Kathleen Donelli has again been selected in the field of Family Law. Dolores Gebhardt has again been selected in the field of Family Law. James K. Landau has again been selected in the fields of Commercial Litigation and Appellate, and has again been selected for the Top 25 in Westchester County for Super Lawyers. Frank W. Streng has again been selected in the fields of Estate & Trust Litigation and Estate Planning & Probate. Douglas S. Trokie has again been selected in the fields of Business/Corporate, Closely Held Business, Real Estate, Business and Civil Litigation. Super Lawyers is a listing of outstanding lawyers from more than 70 practice areas who have been recognized by their colleagues as having the highest degree of peer recognition and professional achievement.

10/01/2017

McCarthy Fingar’s “Super Lawyers”

Nine of our lawyers have been selected Super Lawyers in the New York Metropolitan area. Dina M. Aversano has been selected in the areas of Estate & Trust Litigation, Commercial Litigation and Appellate. Gail M. Boggio has again been selected in the fields of Estate & Trust Litigation/Estate Planning & Probate/Elder Law. Howell Bramson has again been selected in the fields of Estate Planning/Tax and Corporate Business. Joseph Brophy has again been selected in the fields of Personal Injury/Medical Malpractice, General, Estate & Trust Litigation. Kathleen Donelli has again been selected in the fields of Family Law/Collaborative Law/Appellate. Dolores Gebhardt has again been selected in the fields of Family Law/Collaborative Law/Appellate. James K. Landau has again been selected in the fields of Commercial Litigation and Appellate. Frank W. Streng has again been selected in the fields of Estate & Trust Litigation and Estate Planning & Probate. Douglas S. Trokie has again been selected in the fields of Business/Corporate, Closely Held Business, Real Estate, Business and Civil Litigation. Super Lawyers is a listing of outstanding lawyers from more than 70 practice areas who have been recognized by their colleagues as having the highest degree of peer recognition and professional achievement.

10/01/2016

“Super Lawyers” at McCarthy Fingar

Eight of our lawyers have been selected Super Lawyers in the New York Metropolitan area. Dina M. Aversano has again been selected in the areas of Estate & Trust Litigation, Commercial Litigation and Appellate. Gail M. Boggio has again been selected in the fields of Estate & Trust Litigation/Estate Planning & Probate/Elder Law. Howell Bramson has again been selected in the fields of Estate Planning/Tax and Corporate Business. Joseph Brophy has again been selected in the fields of Personal Injury/Medical Malpractice, General, Estate & Trust Litigation. Kathleen Donelli has again been selected in the fields of Family Law/Collaborative Law/Appellate. Dolores Gebhardt has again been selected in the fields of Family Law/Collaborative Law/Appellate. Frank W. Streng has again been selected in the fields of Estate & Trust Litigation and Estate Planning & Probate. Douglas S. Trokie has again been selected in the fields of Business/Corporate, Closely Held Business, Real Estate, Business and Civil Litigation. Super Lawyers is a listing of outstanding lawyers from more than 70 practice areas who have been recognized by their colleagues as having the highest degree of peer recognition and professional achievement.

10/01/2015

Aversano, Boggio, Bramson, Brophy, Demouchet, Donelli, Gebhardt, Streng & Trokie Selected as Super Lawyers

Nine of our lawyers have been selected Super Lawyers in the New York Metropolitan area. Gail M. Boggio has again been selected in the fields of Estate & Trust Litigation/Estate Planning & Probate/Elder Law. Howell Bramson has again been selected in the fields of Estate Planning/Tax and Corporate Business. Joseph Brophy has again been selected in the fields of Personal Injury/Medical Malpractice, General, Estate & Trust Litigation. Kathleen Donelli has again been selected in the fields of Family Law/Collaborative Law/Appellate. Dolores Gebhardt has again been selected in the fields of Family Law/Collaborative Law/Appellate. Frank W. Streng has again been selected in the fields of Estate & Trust Litigation and Estate Planning & Probate. Douglas S. Trokie has been selected in the fields of Business/Corporate, Closely Held Business, Real Estate, Business and Civil Litigation. Preston C. Demouchet and Dina M. Aversano have been selected as Rising Stars: Preston, in the areas of Estate Planning & Probate; and Dina, in the areas of Estate & Trust Litigation, Commercial Litigation and Appellate.  Super Lawyers is a listing of outstanding lawyers from more than 70 practice areas who have been recognized by their colleagues as having the highest degree of peer recognition and professional achievement.

10/01/2014

Boggio, Bramson, Brophy, Donelli, Gebhardt, Miller & Streng Selected as Super Lawyers

Seven of our lawyers have been selected Super Lawyers in the New York Metropolitan area. Gail M. Boggio has again been selected in the fields of Estate & Trust Litigation/Estate Planning & Probate/Elder Law. Howell Bramson has again been selected in the fields of Estate Planning/Tax and Corporate Business. Joseph Brophy has again been selected in the fields of Personal Injury/Medical Malpractice, General, Estate & Trust Litigation. Kathleen Donelli has again been selected in the fields of Family Law/Collaborative Law/Appellate. Dolores Gebhardt has again been selected in the fields of Family Law/Collaborative Law/Appellate. Judge Sondra Miller has again been selected in the fields of Appellate/Family Law. Frank W. Streng has been selected in the fields of Estate & Trust Litigation and Estate Planning & Probate. Super Lawyers is a listing of outstanding lawyers from more than 70 practice areas who have been recognized by their colleagues as having the highest degree of peer recognition and professional achievement.

10/01/2013

Boggio, Bramson, Brophy, Donelli, Gebhardt & Miller Selected as Super Lawyers

Six of our lawyers have been selected Super Lawyers in the New York Metropolitan area. Gail M. Boggio has been selected in the fields of Estate & Trust Litigation/Estate Planning & Probate/Elder Law. Howell Bramson has again been selected in the fields of Estate Planning/Tax and Corporate Business. Joseph Brophy has again been selected in the fields of Personal Injury/Medical Malpractice, General, Estate & Trust Litigation. Kathleen Donelli has again been selected in the fields of Family Law/Collaborative Law/Appellate. Dolores Gebhardt has again been selected in the fields of Family Law/Collaborative Law/Appellate. Judge Sondra Miller has again been selected in the fields of Appellate/Family Law. Super Lawyers is a listing of outstanding lawyers from more than 70 practice areas who have been recognized by their colleagues as having the highest degree of peer recognition and professional achievement.

06/15/2011

Boggio, Donelli & Gebhardt Elected Directors of Women’s Bar Association of State of New York

Gail M. Boggio, Kathleen Donelli and Dolores Gebhardt were elected and then sworn in as directors of the Women’s Bar Association of the State of New York.

The Constitionality of New York’s Grandparent Visitation Statute in Light of Troxel v. Granville (27 Westchester Bar Journal 19, May 06, 2000)

by Kathleen Donelli on 05/06/2020 [Read in full]

Landmark Decision Removes Burden from Parent Needing to Relocate (Legal Notes, Fall 1996)

by Kathleen Donelli on 10/06/1996 [Read in full]

The Drafting of Relocation Clauses and the Challenge It Presents (The Matrimonial Strategist, Vol. XIV, Number 4, May 1996)

by Kathleen Donelli on 05/01/1996 [Read in full]

Dirks v. SEC: New Guidelines for Tippee Liability under Rule 10b-5, 4 Pace Law Review 631 (1984)

by Kathleen Donelli on 05/01/1984 [Read in full]

Mitarotonda v. Mitarotonda, 171 A.D.3d 1040, 96 N.Y.S.3d 868 (2d Dep’t 2019)

Kristen Mackay Pennessi, Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family Law – Child Custody – Appellate Practice – Constructive Emancipation

Our matrimonial lawyers often represent clients on financial issues relating to child custody. Here, Kristen Pennessi & Kathleen Donelli won an appeal in the Appellate Division in which the lower court denied a post-divorce judgment motion, brought by the noncustodial parent (the “father”), to stop paying the custodial parent (our client, the “mother”) child support based on constructive emancipation. Under the doctrine of constructive emancipation, New York courts have held that child support payments may be suspended where the “custodial parent unjustifiably frustrates the noncustodial parent’s right of reasonable access.” Kristen and Kathleen successfully argued that our client, the custodial parent, did not deliberately frustrate or actively interfere with the father’s relationship with his children. Therefore, the court ordered that the father continue to pay child support even though his children refused to have meaningful contact with him.

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Representation of Wife in Successfully Imputing Income to Husband For Purposes of Calculating Child Support & Maintenance

Kristen Mackay Pennessi, Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family Law – Pendente Lite Support – Imputing Larger Income to Spouse Than  Claimed Salary

Our matrimonial lawyers represent clients on contested Pendente Lite applications. Where the husband dissolved his business and voluntarily stopped working and the wife earned $45,000 per year, Kristen Mackay Pennessi & Kathleen Donelli successfully argued that the Court should impute $150,000 of income to the husband in calculating pendente lite support obligations. Here, the husband had not been paying child support, spousal support or any of the household expenses. The Court ordered the husband to pay pendente lite support in the amount of $5,310 per month, and to make direct monthly payments of  the mortgage, HELOC, real estate taxes and homeowners insurance.

Representation of Wife in Successfully Imputing $100,000 in income to Husband in Calculating Pendente Lite Child Support

Kristen Mackay Pennessi, Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family LawPendente Lite Child Support – Imputing Larger Income to Spouse than His Claimed Salary

Our matrimonial lawyers often represent clients on contested Pendente Lite applications. Where the husband claimed to earn only $10,000 per year working as the CEO in his family’s company, Kristen Mackay Pennessi & Kathleen Donelli successfully argued that the Court should impute $100,000 in income to the husband for purposes of calculating pendente lite child support.  Specifically, the Court held that, where the family business was paying for most of the husband’s expenses (he was residing at the marital residence in Scarsdale and his statement of net worth showed expenses of more than $10,000 a month), the husband’s account of his own finances was not credible. Thus, the Court found that imputing income in the amount of $100,000 per year for pendente lite child support purposes was reasonable and appropriate.

Representation of Mother in Successfully Opposing Father’s request for Unsupervised Child Visitation & Interim Custody of Children

Kristen Mackay Pennessi, Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family Law – Unsupervised Child Visitation – Interim Custody of Children

Our matrimonial lawyers often deal with issues on child visitation and child custody. Here, Kristen Mackay Pennessi & Kathleen Donelli successfully argued that supervised visitation between the father and children should continue. After a hearing, the Court held that based on the credible testimony from the son’s therapist, the testimony from the children’s uncle, prior reports of Child Protective Services and the “rehearsed and forced” testimony of the Father and his witnesses,  supervised visitation between the Father and the children should continue.

Representation of Father in Successfully Enforcing Stipulation allowing Father to Make Final decisions on Child’s Religious Upbringing

Kristen Mackay Pennessi, Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family Law – Enforcement of Settlement – Decisions on Religious Upbringing of Children

Our Matrimonial & Family Law lawyers are often retained to enforce a client’s rights under a settlement agreement made by the client and his or her ex-spouse. Here, the parties had entered into a stipulation giving the father the final decision making authority on a child’s religious upbringing. Kristen Mackay Pennessi and Kathleen Donelli successfully argued in Family Court that the mother violated the stipulation when she refused to allow the child to attend Bar Mitzvah classes.

Representation of Wife in Successfully Arguing that Forgiveness of a Loan to Husband is Considered Income When Calculating Maintenance

Kristen Mackay Pennessi, Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family Law – Post Judgment Maintenance Calculation – Forgiveness of Loan is Considered Income For Purposes of Calculating Maintenance

Our matrimonial lawyers often represent clients post-judgment for purposes of enforcing or modifying support obligations. Where the husband was required to pay the wife maintenance each year based on a calculation of his income, Kristen Mackay Pennessi & Kathleen Donelli successfully argued that where the husband received an unsecured loan from his employer in the amount of over $5 million, the portion of the loan forgiven each year was constitutes income to the husband for purposes of calculating his maintenance obligation.

Representation of Husband in Successfully Settling the Marital Portion of Husband’s Partnership Interest

Kristen Mackay Pennessi, Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family Law – Spouse’s Share of Business Interest – Spouse’s Contribution to Business

The value and marital portion of a spouse’s business interest are often essential issues in a divorce action. Kristen Mackay Pennessi and Kathleen Donelli successfully argued that the wife was entitled to only 25% of her husband’s partnership interest, if and when he actually receives any monies for his partnership interest. In this case, it was proven that the wife had only negligible and indirect contributions to the husband’s business partnership.

Representation of Husband in Successfully Opposing Wife’s Claim For Spousal Support Because She Was Allegedly Unable To Work

Kristen Mackay Pennessi, Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family Law – Spouse’s Ability to Earn Income – Psychiatric Examination Ordered

A spouse’s ability to find and maintain employment is an important issue in divorce actions. Where the wife claimed that she was entitled to spousal support because she allegedly had a mental condition and was unable to work, Kristen Mackay Pennessi and Kathleen Donelli successfully argued that the wife should be ordered to submit to a mental examination to determine whether she was able to work. Ultimately, no mental condition was found and the wife did not receive spousal support.

Representation of Husband In Successfully Opposing Wife’s Egregious Fault Claim

Kristen Mackay Pennessi, Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family Law – Egregious Fault Claim –  Permissible Topics for Deposition

Generally, during a deposition in a Matrimonial matter, questions are limited to the finances of the parties. However, Kristen Mackay Pennessi and Kathleen Donelli successfully argued that questions pertaining to alleged abuse were appropriate at the wife’s deposition where egregious fault was at issue.

Representation of Parents in Successfully Opposing a Grandparent Visitation Petition

Kristen Mackay Pennessi, Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family Law – Grandparent Visitation Petition

Matrimonial & Family Law litigation sometimes involves applications for visitation or other relief by grandparents of a minor child. Kristen L. Pennessi and Kathleen Donelli successfully opposed a petition for grandparent visitation where both parents were fit and loving parents and the grandparents had little to no contact with the child.

Representation of Husband In Successfully Opposing Wife’s Order To Show Cause Seeking Pendente Lite Relief

Kristen Mackay Pennessi, Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family Law – Opposing Pendente Lite Relief

Pendente Lite applications – seeking financial support from the other spouse during the divorce action – is an important tool for Matrimonial & Family Law lawyers. Kristen Mackay Pennessi and Kathleen Donelli successfully opposed the wife’s Order To Show Cause for pendente lite relief.  The wife was awarded zero in pendente lite support and zero in legal fees.

Amari v. Molloy, NYLJ 8/8/00, p. 23, col. 5 (Kings Co. Sup. Ct. 2000), aff’d, 293 A.D.2d 431 (2d Dep’t 2002)

Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family Law – Appellate Practice – Child Custody

Sometimes, child custody issues cannot be resolved by the parties without a trial. In this case, Kathleen Donelli persuaded the trial court and appellate court to award child custody to her client.

Amari v. Molloy, 180 Misc. 2d 664 (Kings County Sup. Ct. 1999)

Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family Law – Child Custody – Bifurcation of Custody and Divorce Action

Matrimonial cases are often won or lost based upon a trial lawyer’s success or failure on procedural issues. In Amari, Kathleen Donelli persuaded the trial court to bifurcate the issues of divorce and child custody.

Tropea v. Tropea, 87 N.Y.2d 727, 665 N.E.2d 145, 642 N.Y.S.2d 575 (1996)

Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family Law – Appellate Practice – Child Relocation

Custody of minor children is sometimes an issue that continues after the parents obtain their divorce and have reached agreement on visitation issues. Sometimes, the custodial parent seeks to change his or her location, and the noncustodial parent cries foul and seeks to prevent or oppose that relocation. In Tropea, Kathleen Donelli prevailed in a child relocation case in New York’s highest court, the New York State Court of Appeals. Tropea established the prevailing law in New York on relocation.

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Frayne v. Frayne, 234 A.D.2d 545 (2d Dep’t 1996)

Kathleen Donelli

Matrimonial & Family Law – Appellate Practice – Child Relocation

One of the most satisfying things our Matrimonial & Family Law lawyers do is to get a favorable outcome for a client on a child custody issue. Kathleen Donelli won the landmark New York State Court of Appeals decision on child relocation in Tropea v. Tropea, and has frequently lectured on child relocation issues. In a child relocation case, Kathleen successfully persuaded the Appellate Division, Second Deparment, to permit her client, the custodial parent, to relocate.

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Route 22 Associates v. Cipes, 204 A.D.2d 705 (2d Dep’t 1994)

Kathleen Donelli

Business Litigation – Appellate Practice – Real Estate Easements

Having prevailed in the lower court, Kathleen Donelli persuaded the Appellate Division, Second Department to affirmed the trial court’s decision, declaring the validity of an easement.

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1185 Avenue of the Americas Associates v. The Resolution Trust Corp., 22 F.3d 494 (2d Cir. 1994)

Kathleen Donelli

Business Litigation – Appellate Practice – Landlord/Tenant Issues

After prevailing in the Federal District Court, Kathleen Donelli successfully convinced the US Court of Appeals, for the Second Circuit, to affirm the District Court’s denial of landlord’s claim for $7 million in unpaid rent.

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Jaffer v. Miles, 134 A.D.2d 572 (2d Dep’t 1987)

Kathleen Donelli

Business Litigation – Appellate Practice – Real Estate Contract

In this case, Kathleen Donelli persuaded the Appellate Division, Second Department to reverse the trial court’s denial of summary judgment to seller, finding that the memorandum between the seller and purchaser was not an enforceable contract.

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Presenter Description Organization Date
Kathleen Donelli

Post Judgment Relief and Uncontested Divorces

New York State Judicial Institute,

01/08/2016
Kathleen Donelli

Hot Topics in Equitable Distribution

New York State Judicial Institute

03/25/2015
Kathleen Donelli

Applications for Temporary and Final Relief in Matrimonial Actions: Maintenance, Equitable Distribution, Child Support and Counsel Fees

New York State Judicial Institute

01/07/2015
Kathleen Donelli

Anatomy of a Disciplinary Hearing

Committee on Attorney Professionalism of the New York State Bar Association.

12/05/2014
Kathleen Donelli

Money Matters: How the Psychology of Money Impacts our Practice of Law

Westchester Women’s Bar Association

01/08/2014
Kathleen Donelli

Motion Practice in Matrimonial Actions

Pace University School of Law

04/08/2013
Kathleen Donelli

Ethics and Professionalism

Pace University School of Law

03/16/2013
Kathleen Donelli

No Fault Divorce and Maintenance Issues

New York State Judicial Institute

03/13/2013
Kathleen Donelli

Ethics & Professionalism Update 2012

Pace University School of Law

02/05/2012
Kathleen Donelli

Impact of Current Economy on Matrimonial Cases: House Sales, Foreclosures & Bankruptcies

Westchester Women’s Bar Association

01/10/2012
Kathleen Donelli

Avoiding Ethical Dilemmas in Day-to-Day Practice

Committee on Attorney Professionalism of the New York State Bar Association

11/30/2011
Kathleen Donelli

New Matrimonial Laws: No Fault Divorce, Temporary & Post Divorce Maintenance Guidelines, Counsel & Expert Fees, Modification of Child Support & Orders of Protection

Women’s Bar Association of the State of New York

05/22/2011
Kathleen Donelli

New Matrimonial Legislation

New York State Judicial Institute at Pace

03/23/2011
Kathleen Donelli

New Divorce Legislation – No Fault Divorce, Maintenance Guidelines, Counsel & Expert Fees, Modification of Child Support

Westchester Women’s Bar Association

10/14/2010
Kathleen Donelli

Protecting Assets Before a Divorce

UJA Federation of NY

01/03/2008
Kathleen Donelli

Collaborative Law and the Role of Law Guardians

Pace University School of Law

10/21/2006
Kathleen Donelli

Equitable Distribution in Matrimonial Actions

Westchester Women’s Bar Association; Northern Westchester Shelter

10/03/2006
Kathleen Donelli

Family and Matrimonial Law Series

Northern Westchester Shelter

10/03/2006
Howell Bramson, Kathleen Donelli

“Tax Issues Related to Divorce”

The Bank of New York, White Plains, New York

05/09/2006
Kathleen Donelli

Initial Contact with Matrimonial Clients

Pace University School of Law

02/08/2006
Kathleen Donelli

Letters of Engagement

Pace University School of Law

02/04/2006
Kathleen Donelli

Divorce Law in New York State

Pace University School of Law’s Women’s Justice Center

07/27/2004
Kathleen Donelli

Equitable Distribution

Westchester Women’s Bar Association; Northern Westchester Shelter; Victims Assistance Services

03/18/2004
Kathleen Donelli

Letters of Engagement and Fee Dispute Arbitration

Pace University School of Law

02/07/2004
Kathleen Donelli

Pendente Lite Motions: Temporary Support and Relief Pending a Divorce Judgment

Pace University School of Law’s Women’s Justice Center

06/12/2003
Kathleen Donelli

Children’s Records Law in New York: Access to Mental Health Records

Lorman Education Services

06/05/2002
Kathleen Donelli

Child Support and Maintenance

Pace University School of Law’s Women’s Justice Center

05/28/2002
Kathleen Donelli

Taking and Defending Depositions

Westchester Women’s Bar Association

04/24/2002